There is a wonderful story about an experiment that was done many years ago. The experimenter put a batch of fleas into a jar and covered the jar with clear plastic kitchen wrap. In the first few hours the fleas would jump up and hit the plastic seal at the top of the jar.
Soon they discovered that if they jumped just short of the top, they wouldn’t bang their heads against the plastic. So all of them happily jumped about an eighth of an inch short of the top. They were comfortable. They were happy.
A few days later the experimenter took the plastic seal off the top of the jar. The fleas never left the jar because they were now trained. They continued to jump an eighth of an inch short of the top because it had become a habit.
- Have we become like those fleas in the jar?
- Are we still afraid that we might bump our heads on the ceiling?
- Are we thinking there is a limit to how far we can go?
- Have we accepted the limited outcomes of the past as if they were true?
These limits fall within the overarching categories of assumptions, expectations, beliefs, and opinions. These manifest as a series of thought and behavioral patterns.
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Lack of confidence
How do you break the chain? It starts in the here and now. If you have a fear thought, do what you do with a child, change the subject. Replace the thought immediately with a thought or an image that brings you joy, peace, strength or confidence or any combination of these.
Remember, you cannot hold two thoughts in your mind at the same time. Dr. Irving Oyle calls the chemicals that flow through the body with fear ‘anger juice’. He also coined the phrase ‘joy juice’ for the chemicals that accompany feelings of happiness.
I personally keep a picture of a loved one on my desk, and if anything of a lower nature creeps in, I immediately look at the picture and feel the feelings of love strength and warmth flowing through me. These positive feelings and thoughts usurp the space that the negative thought held and ‘joy juice’ flows through my brain and body.
Remember, you are not separate from the success you seek. As you hold positive thoughts and feelings, everything you do flows more smoothly, everyone you meet feels happier around you, the goals you wish to attain begin to rush towards you.
And then you realize that you are the success you seek. You create it with every thought, emotions and feeling that you hold in your mind and heart.
Try this experiment. In the morning, before you go to work, give yourself a shot of ‘joy juice’ by holding this thought; This is going to be a wonderful day because I am the success I seek. Then observe your interactions, the events that occur, the people that you meet throughout the day.
Have a great day and a wonderful week! And let me know how that works for you…