Given the latest research on the affect that human beings have on each other, SQ may be one of the most important components of student as well as leadership success. SQ is really the quality of our social intelligence. It is how we connect with and relate to others. It is how we invest in, build and nurture relationships over a lifetime.
Here’s 2 pieces of information that really hit the SQ mark and may help clarify the role of relationships in our lives.
- Neuro-plasticity – Your brain is like plastic. It is moldable. It changes throughout your life based on your experience, who you hang with, and your intention to change yourself. Human beings can learn and changeÂ at any stage in life.
- Our brain is wired to connect with others. Even our immune system is linked to respond to our relationships. Positive nourishing relationships nourish us while negative relationships are toxic to the system, especially over time.
The more scientists study the human brain, the more they realize how important ourÂ SQ really is. Our social relationships and interactionsÂ influence both our brain and our biology.
Every school, every teacher and every principal needs to understand the importance of SQ education. It lowers the bullying incidents, upsets in the classroom and referrals to the principal’s office in the school.
And how important is SQ in leadership? A policeman friend put it simply when he said that a new police chief had just been hired from the ranks. “I judge a leader by whether I would go in before him on a raid or let him go in before me,” he said. “I would go in first to protect this man.Â That’s how much I trust him,” he said quietly.Â “And from what I’ve heard, I believe anyone on the force would do the same.”Â The trust that my friend spoke of here only happens out of SQ!